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Many times in life we have a chance to look back. We ask ourselves what we could have done differently to change an unpleasant outcome. We are guilted by the knowledge that with clear thinking, we could have made a greater difference. The problem is, we are too consumed with the emotion and the struggle of survival for ourselves or a family member. We begin to live life on a day-by-day basis.
Planning or creating a future is far from our mindset. However, with time and healing, we are eventually able to more clearly gain a vision. Our sights are now set to finding a solution to a situation. A situation that previously held us captive. As prisoners of pain and suffering, we seek a panacea (hypothetical remedy for all ills or diseases).
It is with this heart and mind that I have come to develop the Public Health Matters concept. I have seen firsthand the battle with the effects of chronic illness. The thought of becoming a "charity case" is frightening for any of us. Worse than that, lonely.
You see, my sister-in-law and I share in a great loss. The loss of my twin brother, Tim. To me, he was my brother. My friend. We shared many fond memories. I miss my weekly calls.
To her, he was her life. Her partner. Gone at 46 years old after a 4 year battle with C.O.P.D. (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease). She still struggles financially. She hasn't fully recovered. Certainly not from the emotional effects brought on by the entire experience.
"So, this site and concept is dedicated to you,Tim. I am sorry I did not think clearly enough to provide you with the help you so desperately needed (not that you would have taken my help). Perhaps, you can take solace in the fact that you have made me look long and hard at your situation."
"Brenda and Josh (your son) still struggle with your loss. They struggle to meet their financial obligations. With hope, prayer and a little good luck, maybe this program I have developed will change all of that. If not for your family, maybe for other families like yours."
"See, you made a difference after all. You touched all of our lives while living. Now in memory, you will graciously touch many more. I love you."
Not having been given a chance to say these words to Tim, I feel blessed to be able to say these words to you. For today, a difference can be made in the way we handle the burdens of chronic or life threatening illness. We can remain informed and involved. We can also build a caring community. An evolution in caring has begun.
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